Let’s talk about why some people choose to spend their lives demotivating and putting others down.
I mean, I’m not sure what they get out of doing it. For those on the other end, it can be an all-round painful, embarrassing and hurtful experience which I personally wouldn’t ever want to inflict on somebody else. Nor would anybody else who is normal.
The first thing to know is that a happy, self confident person does not put others down. They might provide useful, constructive criticism but they won’t put others down. This tells you a lot about the person who criticises you. Some people are very negative about others because:
- They need to make themselves feel like they’re in control
- They need to feel more powerful or to cover up their own insecurities
In fact, anyone who does this shit might as well have a flashing neon sign above their head screaming: *VIOLENTLY INSECURE*
Just scratching under the surface can reveal to you just how unhappy and disillusioned and frustrated that person is with life.
But that’s their problem, not yours. Knowing this can go a long way to being able to detach from the comments. If you know it has more to do with the person making the comments than about you, it makes it far easier to not feel hurt by what’s been said.
That person wants you to feel badly about yourself. Don’t give them that power.
I’ve shared advice like this before, but as usual, I’m crap at taking my own. I’m really guilty of having to go off for a quiet five minutes to have a little cry – trick is to not let them know they’ve upset you. Then over time, the rest will follow and shitty little comments will be like water off a ducks back, biatch.