Your friend is getting married and you can’t wait to put on your pretty dress and get pissed at the wedding (after watching two people you love dearly exchange vows of course!). But before you get that far, there’s yet MORE fun to be had. There’s the Hen Do. And you’re going to organise it.
After you’ve got over the initial excitement and have stopped Googling how many phallus-shaped items you can buy with your cash, take a minute to sit back and think about it.
This is a BIG DEAL.
The bride will remember this for the REST OF HER LIFE.
A little more intimidated now, right? You should be. Unless your bride is the most low-maintenance girl in the world and is happy to sit at home drinking tea and watching films, you’ve got a lot on your plate. You’re also not just organising yourself and her, you’re organising the other hens.
Wow, I’m not really selling this, am I? Truth be told, organising a Hen Party is really satisfying and rewarding, as long as you’re organised and get things sorted in time.
We’ve just got back from The Algarve, Portugal for my friend’s hen do and had the BEST time – I’ve popped in some pictures below. It was absolute mayhem and we loved it. Would I organise another Hen? Absolutely. The smile on her face was enough.
Here are my top tips for organising a Hen Do:
Find out what your bride is expecting as soon as possible
Before you begin, have a quick discussion with your bride. None of this “surprise me” bollocks. She might say she doesn’t mind, but if she ends up paintballing when she was secretly dreaming of a spa day, you’ll be in trouble. Even if it’s the vaguest of ideas, it will set you in the right direction.
Who is coming?
There’s no point jumping into planning activities and trying to book things if some people are unsure if they are able to come. Give everyone enough time to figure out their situations, but by the end you’ll have a strong group of girls who are definitely coming – then you’re free to plan. It may take a little nagging to finalise, but you’ll get there in the end.
Once you’ve got your girls sorted, discuss money. A trip to Monte Carlo might be on the cards but it’s not great if only three out of ten of you can afford it! Bandy around ball-park figures (don’t forget the bride too!) to set expectations. There’s so many options for so many budgets now, you’re bound to find something excellent.
Communication and organisation
Once you’re in the planning and finalisation stages, do your best to communicate with everyone. Remind people about money and document deadlines consistently. You may feel a little annoying (I know I did), but once everything is done you can breathe a sigh of relief and there doesn’t need to be ANY last minute panic. Start WhatsApp and Facebook groups and a Google document to record who’s paid what, when, what’s due next – a god send.
Ask for help
You might be taking the bulk of the planning but you can’t do everything. Ask another of the hens to research some activities for you to help you out!
Don’t forget the little things…but don’t go overboard
When I started planning, I was trying to think of how many things we could fit into the time we had. Turns out you can have too much of a good thing. It might seem like what you have planned ‘isn’t much’, but honestly, once drinks start flowing, the sun is shining and the girls start chatting, time flies when you’re having fun.
You’ve been looking forward to this for weeks – the worst thing you can do now is get smashed before the night’s even started and have to go to bed to sleep it off. Start slow and get steadily drunk. Also, try not to mix drinks!
[From experience, this is easier said than done. Ouch.]
It’s done, you’re here, it’s sorted. Have fun. Don’t worry about anything now…the stressful part is over and you are here to be the BEST HEN YOU CAN BE.
Any questions, just ask. I’ll even share my mega Google document with you if you like. Fancy.