Things Your Wedding Guests Have On Their Own Wishlist

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Your wedding is primarily about you and your soon-to-be husband or wife. However, the biggest thing I worried about (and still am!) in the lead up to our wedding was the guest’s wishlist and their comfort. Will they enjoy it? Will they LOVE it? 

Thanks to COVID-19, I still don’t know the answer to these questions, but there are a couple of things I know our guests will definitely want.

A Well-Stocked Bar

A given on any wishlist, especially with our friends. It’s not for everyone, but drink, especially in the UK, is an integral part of any wedding day. Whilst it’s less common to have an open bar – which is more of a US way of doing weddings, making sure there’s one in sight and ready to go is very important. For any of our guests reading – don’t worry, we gotchu.

A Selfie-Booth

Picture Blast photo booths are finding their way into more and more weddings. Photo booths are a great ice-breaker, are a lot of fun and provide guests with a memento of their day immediately that aren’t the official, edited shots. 

Lots of Delicious Food

This is super important. When we first started planning the wedding (I’m talking early days), we planned to go super simple to try to cut costs slightly. We quickly realised that this would be a huge mistake as whilst we may save a few pounds, we’d be cutting corners and our guests would not only be starving, but also may not have a great lasting impression of our day. To make sure everyone is as comfortable as possible (and to soak up that booze I mentioned), lots of food on offer is a must. Whether that’s a sit down meal, buffet or canapes – your guests need feeding. Don’t forget you need to eat too – it’s tiring work getting married.

A Selfie-Booth

Picture Blast photo booths are finding their way into more and more weddings. Photo booths are a great ice-breaker, are a lot of fun and provide guests with a memento of their day immediately that aren’t the official, edited shots. 

A Creche For Kids

We didn’t go for having children at our wedding – barely any of our friends have them and it was just easier to have an adults-only event. However, some people have large, extended families and many children who waddle down the aisle as flower girls, or cute little page boys. When the party gets started, you may need someone to handle the children.

For creches to work, you can either hire somebody to attend the wedding to help with the children, or create a guest rota, where a couple of people keep an eye on the children while everyone else gets on with having fun.

An Emergency Kit In The Bathroom

This is probably something your guests didn’t think they’d have on their wishlist, but something that will be a lifesaver for them. I’ve planned to have a little box of ‘essentials’ for any guest emergencies whilst the party is going on. I’m talking hair pins, plasters, paracetamol, deodorant, face powder and tampons. Anything you can think of that will ensure your guests have the best time ever and not be feeling blue about anything except the night ending!

Is there anything you’ve incorporated into your wedding for your guests? Let me know!

Important Things To Do The Day Before Your Wedding

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-this is a contributed post-

As you know, our wedding was postponed due to COVID-19. With only eight weeks to go, I was thinking about the final details of the day itself, planning my morning down to the tiniest thing.

When you’re on that final stretch, and only a few short hours away from your wedding day, there are still a few things you need do before you finally relax ahead of this major event in your life. 

If you’re getting ready to walk down the aisle, I have some suggestions for you. No matter how far you are into planning your wedding, remember to add the following to your to-do list for the day before your wedding. 

Check your wedding dress

If there are any last-minute alterations that need doing, it is better to find out the day before your wedding rather than on the day itself. So, try it on again, make sure it feels comfortable, and if there are any issues, do what you can to alter it, or ask somebody else for help.

Call your vendors one last time

If you made bookings with your vendors weeks or months ago, it might be that they need reminding of the details about your wedding. Call and confirm that they are still in the know about what needs to be done, and give them the details they will need, such as the start and expected finishing time of your wedding. Important people to call include the wedding photographer, the caterer, the venue owner, and any drivers you have hired for your big day. Our photographers gave us a great tip of writing up a ‘crib sheet’, with all of the vendors contact details on,  times of arrival, departure, if they’ve been paid or need payment on the day. Give this to a key person you can trust to ensure there’s no hiccups.

Sort out your emergency survival kit

Your wedding day will hopefully go to plan, but in the event that it doesn’t, it is always worth having a few emergency supplies to put in the bathroom, just in case. You might want to include some lipstick, face powder, and hairspray for any beauty-related mishaps! A sewing kit could be useful in the event that there is an issue with either your dress or any that are being worn by your bridesmaids. And in case of drunken injuries or blisters, you might want to include some band-aids, aspirin, and anything else that might be included in a first-aid kit. Your guests will be thankful!

Check the weather

Especially if you’re having an outdoor wedding, you should definitely do this, as you may need to arrange a marquee or other type of shelter last-minute if rain is forecast. Even if you’re not having an outdoor wedding, you might still want to consider an umbrella, a raincoat, and the appropriate shoes to ensure you don’t turn up to your wedding in disarray. Remember to pack the appropriate items if the day is going to be blazing hot too. Sun creams and bottles of water might be essential, for example.

Get together with your family

If you have delegated responsibilities to your family, then it’s worth sitting down with them to make sure everybody knows what they need to do. This is also your time to celebrate the love you have for your family before you get hitched!

I hope you have an amazing wedding day – can’t wait for ours! x

A New Date

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Following on from my blog a couple of weeks ago when the reality of having to postpone the wedding was just creeping into our minds, I wanted to update here that it has officially been pushed back until Saturday 3rd October 2020. 

Whilst we are gutted and heartbroken, especially as we were only in the final few weeks of our countdown, we agreed that this was definitely the best decision to keep everyone safe. It’s really important to us to have a celebration that everyone can enjoy with no concerns – and won’t it be all the sweeter when it happens?

Our suppliers have all been absolutely amazing. I’ve been really blown away by everyone we are working with, as they have all done so well to roll with the punches and ease our worries.

Of course, we still don’t really know what’s going to happen in the coming weeks and months, but we just need to focus on the fact that the wedding IS going to happen at some point, and the fact that it’s not happening on the day we originally chose doesn’t matter. We still have each other (couldn’t think of a better isolation buddy!) and the rest of our lives to make memories.

See our new date announcement video below, created by our fab wedding photographers, The Twigs.

Thanks for all the support! x

The Worst Time For A Wedding

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I said I’d write posts about the lead-up to the wedding – I didn’t say they’d all be positive. The Coronavirus which appears to be taking over the world has now put the wedding in jeopardy. My hen party which was due to happen next weekend abroad is now cancelled / postponed, and whether we can go on our minimoon to NYC is also in question. I’m not ashamed to say that I called Trump a wanker, as he delivered the news about the travel ban in a ridiculous USA cap. Wanker.

The news about the virus appears to be getting worse, and it’s such a turbulent time, with the situation changing every day. I’ve already written a piece on what to do if you are suffering with Coronavirus Anxiety.

I’m feeling very conflicted. I am self-aware enough to know that there are bigger problems in the world – people are dying, losing loved ones, losing business and livelihoods. I would never dream to assume that my situation is worse than theirs.

However, I’m also aware that I am only living my life, my situation. I think I’m entitled to a bit of a moan and if you don’t like it, don’t tell me because I litch don’t want to hear it, and anyway you can’t tell me what to do because you’re not my real dad. 

Loss of control

2020 is the biggest, most special year of my life, and marrying the love of my life is supposed to be the most exciting thing I have ever done. Instead, I’m walking around with a ball of dread in my stomach, worrying about everything going to shite. It’s the not knowing that’s the worst – and not being able to control anything. 

My friends have been amazing – I need to keep reminding myself that the hen party that we’ve looked forward to for months is less cancelled, more postponed. They have come together to arrange something for the weekend anyway, so I still have something to look forward to, which is lovely. Our suppliers have also been supportive, making sure we know that we won’t lose money, and things can be postponed. But I don’t WANT a fucking postponement. I want to marry Will on 23rd May 2020 at 2pm, like we’ve had planned for over a year.

Forgive me if I sound like a self-centred child. I’m very angry, bitter, sad, hurting, grieving and all other manner of negative adjectives. Will, as usual, is being absolutely amazing, being supportive, loving, keeping his head and being his mellow self. I am the reactive one. I am the head-loser. It wouldn’t do to have two of us in the relationship.

Positive thinking

As I mentioned in my previous post, I’m super anxious about the wedding as it is. The planning has been stressful for me and ironically, a few weeks ago, everything seemed to be on the up and we were looking forward to the final countdown. Now, I’m more terrified than before. 

The next few weeks are going to need to be a concentrated effort of self-care, self-soothing, practicality and making like Will to not lose my head (any further). I want to say sorry to people in advance if I’m flakey, ratty, or in tears. Yes, there are worse things in the world. But this is the worst thing that has happened to ME.

Fingers crossed, everyone. Here comes the bride. 

The Jones Wedding Update, December 2019 – Wedding Anxiety!

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Once again, I find myself marvelling over how quickly time goes by. It’s just insane to me that it’s been nearly an entire year since William proposed to me and we became engaged. When I thought about May 2020 all those months ago, I thought we had so much time in front of us; and here we are with five months to go!

The wedding anxiety has increased tenfold. I am having constant dreams about things going wrong on the day. One last night inspired this post: no one was on time, the makeup artist insisted on doing piles of washing up and wouldn’t start until it was finished. I turned up at the venue hours too late – with my hair in some kind of backcombed rat tail – to find everyone drunk and shouting at each other. Worst of all, Will was nowhere to be found.

Dreams that the stones fall out of my engagement ring happen on a weekly basis. I haven’t Googled what it means because I’m sure it’s some kind of terrible omen.

I DID Google however, wedding anxiety in general. It seems it’s entirely normal.

“It’s your day”

Planning a wedding is one of the most stressful things ever, even if everything goes to plan and everyone is cordial. It’s a huge event and one you will remember for the rest of your life; if that’s not pressure, I don’t know what is.

It’s so simple for people to say, “it’s your day, do what makes you happy”, and “if anything goes wrong, it won’t matter” – it matters to me though! I’ve always had a problem with worrying about what other people think and getting married seems to have exacerbated that rather than eased it.

Will still doesn’t give one shit as usual, I really wish I could take a leaf from his book sometimes.

Here’s what I’ve learned so far on our wedding planning journey.

It’s okay to dislike some parts of planning

Being engaged is incredible and I often still marvel at that fact. Planning a wedding can also too be a joy. However, some parts of planning, especially bits involving other people and negotiating with vendors can be filled with stress and sometimes heartache. I remember feeling so guilty about my wedding anxiety, when things like sorting out the entertainment filled me with dread. Sometimes when a supplier let me down, or I realised something was too expensive, I felt anger and frustration. I thought I should always be this relaxed, serene person. I mean I’m a bride-to-BE for god’s sake. But it’s not realistic. It was much easier when I admitted to myself that I didn’t have to be happy 24/7.

Say yes

Control freak I am, I have got the mother of all spreadsheets for this wedding. With Will’s input, I tried to plan pretty much every aspect of the wedding myself. Again, over time, I realised that I could loosen my grip on certain things, especially bits I am rubbish at, like décor. Not my bag – but Will’s mum and aunt are great at that! Trust, people will be falling over to be involved and help you – choose wisely and it will give you some breathing space.

Don’t be pushed into things

I know I literally just told you to say yes – BUT. Don’t be corralled into having something or doing something that you wouldn’t have chosen. I have been suggested so many things that I have smiled politely about, whilst internally screaming. If you get to the day of your wedding, look around and don’t think of it as ‘yours’, then you may be disappointed.

Set deadlines

Y’all know I love a list! You can print off ‘wedding checklist’ lists from the net, and although they are broken down into months, I found them really overwhelming and hard to cope with. I started making monthly lists with wedding goals and a deadline to be completed by the end of that month. Sometimes they weren’t even big things – one month I had on there to look at some websites with Will for his wedding suit. That way, when the time comes to actually get one, we already know what kind of style and price we’re looking for. Bitesize, easy-to-digest. Winner.

If I have any advice for brides-to-be, it’s honestly just to anticipate your wedding anxiety and learn to let things go if they don’t work out – you’ve got plenty of time. Enjoy!

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