What is it about Morrisons?

At the risk of sounding like the most boring person alive, I love doing our weekly food shop. We always plan our meals and heading to Morrisons for our weekly meander around the aisles is one of my favourite things to do with Will.

He’s the trolley-pusher, I’m the list holder and item picker. If they had an Olympics for fastest couple to scan and bag, we’d win. However, I love it not simply because of the cracking deals, but because we’ve had some of our best conversations in Morrisons.

Good and bad, those aisles have seen a fair whack of emotions throughout our relationship. We had our first conversation about moving in together near the crisps. The pasta aisle saw me slam some pesto into the trolley and flounce off ahead because Will had to unexpectedly work that night [and I was just being a wee cow tbh]. Don’t worry, we had made up by the time we got to the bread. World foods saw me have a near-panic attack and shed a few tears over a horrible situation near the start of this year, and confectionary saw us have a debate about the amount of sugar our future children should have(!)

We also talk through our plans for the week, what we’ve got coming up, what’s on our minds and how we feel about things in general. 

There might be some science behind this though. According to WalkCoachLearn: “When we sit down we are often face-to-face. This can produce a sense of confrontation – me versus you. When we walk, we are side-by-side. We are moving together facing the problem and working together to find solutions – us versus the problem.”

Here’s why I think it works

It’s carved out time

We know, no matter how busy our weeks are, that we’ll have at least one, dedicated hour or so in which we are focused on each other and what we each have to say. When we’re running around like crazy all week, it’s something to look forward to.

It lessens the need for eye contact

It can be hard to look someone in the eye when you’re talking about something difficult. Being side-by-side can make you feel more at ease and less under pressure.

We’re working together

It’s food shopping, not rocket science. But it’s a task we’ve done hundreds of times and it’s like a well-oiled machine. We’re a team in smashing out a weekly shop AND understanding each other on a deeper level.

No interruptions

Have ye ever tried to push a trolley when on your phone? It doesn’t work very well. For this time, we are focused only on each other and there’s no TV, phones, or other people [bar the general public – JEEZ] to distract us.

Of course, Morrisons isn’t a holy, fluorescent pilgrimage site for pre-marital conversations. Anywhere you can walk and talk will work – the park is a good one. Additionally, you don’t need to be as far down the relationship path as we are. First dates can be awkward AF and the thought of sitting opposite someone might fill you with dread. Instead, walk through Borough Market or along Southbank to ease the pressure.

Seriously though, next time you need to have a difficult chat or just talk freely – take a walk [or get yerself down to Morrisons].

 

We’re Engaged!

I can’t believe it’s taken me this long to announce our amazing news on my blog!

I’m engaged. Like, actually engaged! It’s still taking a while to sink in; it’s still unreal! I’ve dreamt of this moment my whole life and I can’t believe it’s here. I’m getting married. I’m going to be a Mrs. And the cherry on top – it’s to an absolutely incredible man.

NGL, every wish I’ve made since I met Will has been for this.

Here’s the build-up, engagement story and the aftermath – written by yours truly (left hand currently weighed down with a MASSIVE rock. Seriously, Jonesy did the best job choosing the ring).

How did he do it?      

I’ve known that William is The One for a long time. He is the gentlest, thoughtful, kindest and funniest soul I have ever met, and there is not a day that goes by where he doesn’t put a smile on my face. We spoke about our futures fairly early on in our relationship and knew that we were both in it for the long-haul, so I simply waited until William knew it was the right moment to ask the question that would make me the happiest girl alive.

On New Year’s Eve, Will and I were due to go out for dinner at our favourite restaurant. I can’t explain it, but whilst I was getting ready, I was overcome with nerves and excitement that came out of nowhere – I was actually shaking! I pushed the weird feeling down and got on with our evening.

When we came back home at around 11pm after a lovely meal, we put on some records and had a dance around the living room. Just before midnight, we put on the TV to watch the countdown and fireworks. At the stroke of midnight, I turned to my right and William was on bended knee, holding the most perfect ring out to me.

Poor Will – I didn’t immediately say yes. I asked if he was joking, then burst into tears and collapsed into his arms. Once I’d calmed down slightly, he asked me again and I was able to say a very definite yes. I’ll remember it for the rest of my life.

There IS a video…but I spend most of it absolutely HOWLING so not sure it’s ever going to see the light of day.

We spent the rest of the evening ringing family to tell them our good news!

You can read the full story on How He Asked.

What has happened since we got engaged?

It’s been pretty overwhelming! The reaction we’ve received since sharing the news has been astoundingly positive. We’ve loved telling all our friends and family. Also, anyone who knows me knows I’m a fiend for a good greetings card, so I’m in heaven right now.

The first week or so was quite surreal. I kept forgetting to put my ring on in the morning and having to turn back towards home halfway down the road. I’m getting better now, but because I’m still being super careful with my ring, there are still a couple of occasions a week when I realise I’m not wearing it and nearly collapse with panic. Luckily, it’s usually in the ring box where I left it, and you can be damn sure I insured the FUCK out of it on day one.

We’re heavily into January now, and time is moving so fast. I’m actually super surprised at how much stuff we’ve got sorted or are in the process of getting sorted already. The engagement party and everything that goes with that is completely sorted – bring on March. We’re currently viewing venues, looking to secure a date for Spring / Summer 2020!

If my years in PR taught me anything, it’s how to be disgustingly organised. Yeah, I have the mother of all spreadsheets (colour-coded, hundreds of tabs …the lot).

It’s also been stressful. Like I said, I’ve dreamt about this forever, and the amount of writing I do for my lovely clients in the wedding industry, you’d think I’d have a strong basis for what I want. Nope – we’re doing so much research to make sure any decisions we make are the best for us and what we want.

Howeverrr…y’all know I am a people-pleaser – not to mention super-anxious – and I’ve been a bit upset (yeah – the first wedding-related tears have been shed) over trying to accommodate everyone’s wants and needs.

Everyone (EVERYONE) has a bloody opinion, and however (and most of them are) well-intentioned, each one has me doubting myself. I really need to learn to be more like Will. He will listen to an opinion kindly and thoughtfully, then diplomatically respond – before subtly ripping it up and placing it gently in the bin.

Will’s mum said I should stick a big sign on the fridge saying: ‘IT’S OUR DAY’, and I think I’m going to do it. The most important thing I need to focus on is that Will and I are getting married – the wedding is just a party at the end of the day.

Any brides or grooms, past or present, got any advice for me? Apart from CHILL THA FUCK OUT, WINSTON?

I’ve got a feeling I’m going to have a LOT to say about our impending nuptials, so I’ll make a new category on the blog menu and add anything wedding-related there.

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